What Are The Most Common Reasons Couples Fight?

You're sitting here wondering what went wrong. What happened to perfect?

Your partner and you used to seem so good for one another, but somewhere down the road, the easy flow of conversation became a little more difficult.

Unfortunately, you both fell into the same routine of waking up, going to work, coming home, eating dinner, getting ready for bed, and repeating it all over again the next day.

When was the last time you craved the next step in your relationship? Is there even a next step to be craving or is this it? Is this as good as it's going to get?

You miss the spontaneity. You miss not knowing what to expect. Instead, you're wondering when your next fight will be and what causes it to happen this time around.

Let's learn more about the most common reasons couples fight.

Finances

One of the most common topics of fights or disagreements between couples is about their finances. It can be easy to disagree on where you both should need or want to spend your money. For example, if something in the home you share together needs to be fixed, you may feel like you should fix it right away while your partner wants to wait. Or maybe you and your partner have different interests or hobbies, and you don't necessarily agree with how they're spending their money.

Your Sex Life

Another common area of disagreement is with your sex life. It's extremely common for one partner to want more sex than the other partner. On the other hand, it can be common for one partner to assume their partner wants to have sex all the time while they may not feel like they have the time or energy to do so.

Holidays

Another topic of conversation that can lead to a debate is where to spend holidays. You each had your own lives and families before finding one another and coming together to form a relationship together. On top of that, you've built your own family traditions, especially regarding holidays.

How are you supposed to choose where to spend birthdays, Mother's and Father's Day, or Thanksgiving? The topic of holidays can also bring on added tension regarding family members. You and your partner may argue about family members and where they're staying when they visit or even the length of their stay.

House Chores

When you and your partner share a household together, it's common to split the chores up and equally divide them so you each are doing your fair share and part in keeping up with the housework. One of you may choose to wash the dishes while the other person dries them. Another partner may choose to feed the dogs while the other mows the lawn. If one person feels like they're doing more of the household chores compared to their partner, it could lead to frustration, anger, and resentment.

Time

The time that you and your partner spend together or apart can also be a conflict. One partner may feel like their partner is not dedicating enough time to them and their wants and needs. They may feel like their partner is prioritizing other things like their career, sports, or friends. In a relationship, each person needs to feel like they're valued, and respected, and that they matter.

Next Steps

If you're having disagreements in your relationship, you're not alone. If you're worried about how much you're arguing or the topics you're disagreeing on, working with an outside third party can be extremely beneficial for you and your partner. A therapist can help provide a safe, secure, and neutral environment for you and your partner to work through any issues. Reach out to us today to set up a consultation.